Why there are no good men around

The next time I hear a women complain about being single I am gna scream my guts out. I hope my pals do not read this today because I am all about the truth, I want to tell it like it is; in black and while. Every time I sit with groups of girls whether they are my pals or not, the topic of discussion will always be men. How there are no more good men, how they are dogs, how they did A or B, and the likes. Most of us complain about being cheated on, lied to or not being able to find a good man. There is no doubt chivalry is dead and women blame men for its death. But when you think about it clearly women are as much to blame they just blame the men to make themselves feel better but the truth is women killed it.

There are so many things that we did to mess up the men and the relationships that failed. I am not saying the men did not do anything wrong, what I am trying to say is that maybe we did contribute to it in many ways:

We became cheap: I know you are going to hate me for this one but really premarital sex has killed chivalry. Some random guy once told me there is no point of buying a cow when they can get milk for free. He makes a good point, when women are giving up the goods so easily, why are they surprised when men leave?  We forgot what chivalry is really about, its not about sleeping with a guy because you think he is a keeper or because he called you , held the door or paid for dinner. Beyonce sang “If you like it, then you should have put a ring on it. It was not just a good song, it was a reminder that the ring comes FIRST. Call me whatever you want, but THE RING MUST COME FIRST. Otherwise what’s the standard? Do you just sleep with him hoping he will like it and put a ring on it, and how many times will you give it up?

We followed wrong advice
You flip through magazines reading articles and opinions on how to keep a man and take whatever they write as gospel truth. We have let media define how and what course relationships should take. You tell your friends all your relationships secrets and take their advice as gospel truth then act shocked when it does not work out. In the dating world two is a crowd, if you cannot solve your problems with you man, don’t expect your girlfriends to have all the answers. Take a look at your friends who give you advice, if they are not happily married, you must stop following their advice.

Advertise too much: A friend once asked me why women clothes keep getting tinier, more transparent and more irrelevant in the name of fashion and I had no answer. Clothes are often labeled as official, casual, summer wear or evening wears because each serves a purpose. If you dress like a prostitute why are you surprised that you attract men who only use you for sex? No decent man will hit on you if your goods are on display. Some parts of your body belong to one pair of eyes only, and it’s twisted to show them to every, Tom, Dick and Harry. If you want to be treated like a lady you can’t put all our business out there. I don’t care what century we are in or what’s in fashion; stop putting your god on display it all out there. You can be decent and beautiful.

Feminism shortchanged us: By thinking we could do it on our own, pride kicked in and we lost the men. It all goes back to the beginning of times, if Adam could do it on his own women would not exist. Most women refuse to let men provide, because supposedly, anything a man can do, a woman can do better. You will see a man struggling to impress these women but is only met with disdain and complaints, and finally gives up. That woman says “who needs men” but yet craves the things that she can only get with a man, decides to invest in a vibrator and pets. Many women long for a man’s company, but are too proud to admit it to themselves.

Desperation: There is a poem or bible verse that says everything has its own season. Patience never killed anyone but most women have become so desperate they went looking for love in all the wrong places. I know the biological is ticking but when you settle for just anybody to cure loneliness, give you a child don’t expect a happily ever after.

We forgot to pray: Faith in God is the surest way to set things right. If you want a situation to change, do something about it – prayer is a wonderful place to begin. God is the creator of all and only He can change  men so get on you knees and pray instead of nagging and complaining.