marriage=boring
By Christine Chacha
Marriage and relationships are no longer the epitome of a single lady any more. The glitz and glamour of being married or in a relationship has disappeared along with whatever joy that was ever in marriage. Am sorry to say this, but it’s a fact that married people are boring and a bad sport.
As much as I want to meet, date and fall passionately in love with the man of my dreams, moving the relationship into eternal commitment makes me shudder because 90 per cent (own analysis) of married people are just boring. What makes you so boring anyway ? I need to understand what happens to you guys when you get married or into serious relationships?
I've seen too many friends become unhappy and bored after marriage or getting into committed relationships. I’m tempted to advice my single friends to cavort on their own for as long as they can. Is there an unwritten rule that settling down equals to getting bored?
I had a pal who was wild, she would party from Friday to Sunday and was always the source of exciting ideas for the weekend. Things took a different turn when she got engaged. Her energy dipped a seriously low. She no longer hanged out with us and became a different person all together. It’s as if she became old all of a sudden and it only got worse after marriage. Her weekends are now limited to indoor activities, watching movies and whatever people do in the house.
Seriously, when a single buddy is getting married, say goodbye to her at the reception since they soon ascribe to the confined boring married life.When a woman enters into a relationship you can bet how things will go, it follows a particular pattern; There’s the honeymoon phase; they go out a lot, have a lot of fun together as they fit each other into their lives.
In fact, it’s easy to spot a couple in a new relationship as they will be all over the place and each other. After a while, it enters the plateau phase, which is routine; movie on Friday, out on Saturday and home on Sunday. Then going out stops all together and hanging out in the house is all they do as if they are tethered in their houses. They simply become BORING.Then they start wondering, why their men no longer hang out with them or why he says they have changed.
In the long run, your partner no longer finds you interesting and may start seeking that fun elsewhere. If your life revolves around each other you enter a comfort phase that is just not fun.A married friend disclosed to me that he finds his wife very boring nowadays. She no longer wants to go anywhere and even when she does, she wants to be home by 10 pm. If he goes out alone, she calls after every 20 minutes to find out when he’ll be home. And you have to wonder, why your man will cheat on you despite the ring and love.
Some may argue that dreams, goals, responsibilities and priorities change after marriage. They will use the children, mortgages, nosy in-laws as an excuse as to why they can not party like rock stars. This cycle that seem to be going around is very unhealthy; have fun in your 20's...then "settle down" and get married in 30s is the reason people split at 40s.
The key point here is that, KNOW your dreams and hobbies, keep the passion, then, find your mate. If your partner makes you a sell-out bore, you are better of alone.Consider this public notice: The reason why your man wants to hang out with the boys is because you have given up the fun girl he fell in love with and became a boring housewife. You have left your own passion of life dry up thinking getting married is about focusing on things inside the house.
If you don’t have hobbies or go out, thus loose touch with your friends. It is for this reason that you become clingy and nagging because your man is the only source of fun-if you know what I mean. Come on girl, go out and have fun with your girls, it will remind you of what your life was all about.
As much as I want to meet, date and fall passionately in love with the man of my dreams, moving the relationship into eternal commitment makes me shudder because 90 per cent (own analysis) of married people are just boring. What makes you so boring anyway ? I need to understand what happens to you guys when you get married or into serious relationships?
I've seen too many friends become unhappy and bored after marriage or getting into committed relationships. I’m tempted to advice my single friends to cavort on their own for as long as they can. Is there an unwritten rule that settling down equals to getting bored?
I had a pal who was wild, she would party from Friday to Sunday and was always the source of exciting ideas for the weekend. Things took a different turn when she got engaged. Her energy dipped a seriously low. She no longer hanged out with us and became a different person all together. It’s as if she became old all of a sudden and it only got worse after marriage. Her weekends are now limited to indoor activities, watching movies and whatever people do in the house.
Seriously, when a single buddy is getting married, say goodbye to her at the reception since they soon ascribe to the confined boring married life.When a woman enters into a relationship you can bet how things will go, it follows a particular pattern; There’s the honeymoon phase; they go out a lot, have a lot of fun together as they fit each other into their lives.
In fact, it’s easy to spot a couple in a new relationship as they will be all over the place and each other. After a while, it enters the plateau phase, which is routine; movie on Friday, out on Saturday and home on Sunday. Then going out stops all together and hanging out in the house is all they do as if they are tethered in their houses. They simply become BORING.Then they start wondering, why their men no longer hang out with them or why he says they have changed.
In the long run, your partner no longer finds you interesting and may start seeking that fun elsewhere. If your life revolves around each other you enter a comfort phase that is just not fun.A married friend disclosed to me that he finds his wife very boring nowadays. She no longer wants to go anywhere and even when she does, she wants to be home by 10 pm. If he goes out alone, she calls after every 20 minutes to find out when he’ll be home. And you have to wonder, why your man will cheat on you despite the ring and love.
Some may argue that dreams, goals, responsibilities and priorities change after marriage. They will use the children, mortgages, nosy in-laws as an excuse as to why they can not party like rock stars. This cycle that seem to be going around is very unhealthy; have fun in your 20's...then "settle down" and get married in 30s is the reason people split at 40s.
The key point here is that, KNOW your dreams and hobbies, keep the passion, then, find your mate. If your partner makes you a sell-out bore, you are better of alone.Consider this public notice: The reason why your man wants to hang out with the boys is because you have given up the fun girl he fell in love with and became a boring housewife. You have left your own passion of life dry up thinking getting married is about focusing on things inside the house.
If you don’t have hobbies or go out, thus loose touch with your friends. It is for this reason that you become clingy and nagging because your man is the only source of fun-if you know what I mean. Come on girl, go out and have fun with your girls, it will remind you of what your life was all about.
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