"Good Man"

Every woman wants a prince for a man but how many women do you know who have dated and even married men they thought were good only to find out later that they were not? Most men know and appreciate qualities in a woman that make her a wife material and will be on the lookout for qualities like kindness, supportiveness, and caring nature. Women on the other side have a misconstrued perception of the qualities to look for in a man; some go for looks, material possession, personality and the likes. The result is that many women end up in unhappy marriages

The truth is that the education level, money, car or career says nothing of a man’s ability to make a good husband or boyfriend. Most women complain how tricky it is to find a good man because so many single men try to be someone they are not. If you don’t look deep enough you will be duped to believe the guy is genuine only to fall for a guy with qualities you can’t stand.

I had a pep talk with my pastor last weekend and he reiterated to me that good men are everywhere. Women just need to learn how to spot them. He advises that a good man is more than his looks, achievements and personality. He was able to list some qualities that women need to look out for before they say I do or agree to date any guy.

Most women I know avoid looking out on the good qualities like integrity, humility and kindness and instead choose men the hard way; they go through a gut wrenching string of emotionally detached males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players before they finally meet the guy. But I would prefer the easy way, I do not want to kiss many frogs, I want a good a guy from the start.My pastor listed some of the qualities which I feel are far more valuable than the amount in his bank account. Needless to say his commitment with God is something that is a necessary foundation.

Nowadays there are too many fake guys, they will lie about their relationship status, social status, education level and everything else. Honesty is a quality that I believe a man should posses. Find a guy who is honest about everything and you have a good man. I always believe trust is the foundation of any relationship but you cannot trust a guy if you doubt him.A good man has got to be reliable.  When he says yes, then he will do it, when he says no, then he won't do it, and keeps time. In other words, he takes full responsibility for his own words and realize them in his actions.

By nature women look out for a man who is able to protect her and her children. Assertiveness is a good quality in a man because despite the fact that women can stand up for themselves they still like a man to be assertive and stand up for her. Knowing that a man is willing and will be able stand up for you and protect you in times of physical danger or trouble

He doesn't have to treat you like a princess and spoil you everyday, but he knows what he has to do to show his love and he will never hurt you. If he accidentally hurts you, he doesn't hesitate to come to you, admit his mistake and apologize sincerely. He is a man who appreciates and respects you. There is nothing more disgusting than a man who degrades,commits physical and verbal abuse towards a woman.

An ambitious man with passion and has goals in life and has got the motivation to follow their dreams. No woman would want a man who has no motivation to do anything with their lives. Maybe he's not handsome, but he always seems very excited about what he does and, his face looks so bright, he dares to face everyone, and he has a pleasant personality. Most importantly, he is just being himself and not trying desperately to change his attitude

Morally upright: A guys morality affects your relationship. A man who has grown up as a good man and doesn't have many problems with society or law  tends to act wisely in relationships. On the other hand, a man with low morality e.g. solving problems with violence, familiar with criminality, drugs and free sex tends to bring the relationship into violence, quarrels, and infidelity

Other preliminary qualities include a sense of humour and good grooming.  I honestly believe that a sense of humour is a quality that is a must in a man.  Some say it Is not a necessity but the ability to make fun and laugh together even in the worst of situation is one quality that makes relationship tolerable.  A man does not have to be hot like Ryan Reynold but he has to be well groomed to attract you. the only caution is not to expect a certain height, colour, race or size. If you are not attracted physically to a guy you are dating or planning to marry then you will be in trouble up ahead.

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