The C World...

The next time I hear a women complain about being single I am gna scream my guts out. I hope my pals do not read this today because I am all about the truth, I want to tell it like it is; in black and while. Every time I sit with groups of girls whether they are my pals or not, the topic of discussion will always be men. How there are no more good men, how they are dogs, how they did A or B, and the likes. Most of us complain about being cheated on, lied to or not being able to find a good man. There is no doubt chivalry is dead and women blame men for its death. But when you think about it clearly women are as much to blame they just blame the men to make themselves feel better but the truth is women killed it. There are so many things that we did to mess up the men and the relationships that failed. I am not saying the men did not do anything wrong, what I am trying to say is that maybe we did contribute to it in many ways: We became cheap: I know you are going to hate me for thi...

The first time Beyoncé’s Best Thing I Never Had sailed through my speakers and registered in my mind, I had an unexpected amen moment right there. The girl has always had the ability to drop gems that have turned into girl power anthems. Remember her hit song Irreplaceable? This was a song that not only empowered women, but was also a wake-up call for men, telling them that they are dispensable. After listening to the song, women everywhere found the guts to make some tough decisions. I don’t know how she does it, but Beyoncé always gives me timely perspective on my relationships. Best Thing I Never Had took me to the ugly, dark place I was stuck in two years ago when I was broken, crying and angry with a man I loved for walking away from me. We had broken up at a time when I thought we shouldn’t have. We’ve all heard it happen a million times. You’re dating a guy, weaving your life around his, day dreaming about a future together, the home and children you’ll share, when suddenly...

My pal has been dating this guy for a couple of months now and has been talking no stop about the guy and how happy she is. I was definitely very eager to meet the guy that was making my pal go crazy unfortunately she was a bit secretive with him; apart from his name, we knew nothing else. Unfortunately her secretive behaviors was only piqued our interest and made us very curious about the guy. We were so eager to meet the guy that we invaded her house when he was there. I know she is going to hate me for this but I hope she will take me seriously after reading this.The guy was handsome and all but truth be told he was definitely not her type and you will see why when I explain. My pal, let’s call her Sara- is a marketing executive at a leading company in town, she was educated in the top schools in the country and abroad and is very cultured . I don’t mean to be rude but   this new boyfriend is complete opposite of her. He owns a mechanic shop (where the two met) hasn’t been to U...

Nowadays I dread watching, reading and   listening to news; there is hardly any good news anywhere. Being a scribe I should know that good news is not news but being human I know that bad news is not welcome, especially if the bad news is that of death. Just a few weeks ago, the world mourned the demise of two great visionaries who have made great contribution to our generation. Loosing Nobel laureate Wangari Maathai and Apple founder Steve jobs in one month was a great blow. Today I would like to take time to reflect and appreciate the lives of the two fallen great minds and   commemorate a great man whose visions helped shape African politics, Wangari’s death was a great loss not only to the conservation world but to the entire human race. She was a great visionary who linked the health of environment to human wellbeing.   By fighting against degradation of forests, Wangari protected food and water security. She tirelessly fought against the reigning regime calling for...

The Sexy Bucket List

I've heard a lot of guys referring to girls they are dating in many ways but none has ever struck a raw nerve as the one I heard recently.  I actually didn’t know how to react. Have you ever wondered why men rarely marry women they date for years?  You date a guy all the way through campus, see him through the roughest times of his life and stick with him when the world is against him, then he suddenly dumps you only to marry a bimbo he met three months ago? As disturbing as it sounds, we all agree that in most cases, men never marry those they date, and if they do, the marriage will never be a smooth ride. I set out to find out why this is the case and the answers I got shocked rather than enlightened me.Apparently, men place all the girls they date in three categories. For every man, there is the girl to marry, the girl to date and the girl to sleep with.While we all desire to be in the first category, it all depends on the character you exhibit to him, but de...

By Christine Chacha A friend once told me that every woman, whether married, single or divorced needs four types of men to successfully live. She believes each one of us needs the father of your babies, the financier, the office husband and the guy who makes you feel like you are on top of the world. I couldn’t agree with her more because women, unlike men, are not jack of all trade-although some try- so we do need help sometimes. It doesn’t mean we are weak, though it just means we need a man to sort some things in life. With this in mind, here is a list of men that every woman needs in her life, those that she cannot do without, they make your life easier. The platonic male friend: This is a guy who has been with you through the rough tides and the calm seas. He could be a childhood friend, a guy from school, a relative, a neighbour or a guy who knows you too well. Every woman should have one. I have one-my pal Davie, and he has taught me everything I know about...

If there is one thing that I am certain about, is that majority of women do not like their men’s friends. They may play pretty when around them, but inside they do not like them. Sadly, if you really love a man, you have to learn how to get along with his friends.I think, in most cases, it is because men are not good at balancing between friends and their women. I know women who like their men to live and breathe for them.  They force them to abandon their friends. Sadly, men do not like this. They feel like you are being too clingy or a nag and this has been a constant cause of conflict among couples. So, what would make another woman complain about a man who makes her the center of his universe? I thought she would be the happiest woman on earth. “My boyfriend is a loner,” complained my pal Deana, “We have been dating for a year now and I can tell you for a fact that he has no friends. He always wants to hang out with me. I thought it was cute and I enjoyed the att...

By Christine Chacha. Is it me or has the concept of friendship eluded most people?  Being nice or chatty to someone for the sake of wanting to make a friend is so often misconstrued that I have given up on trying to make friends with the opposite sex. You see, I recently moved to a new town. As you can imagine this is hard enough and trying to make new friends even harder. So I met this guy and somehow we seemed to click, we shared similar interests and happened to be in the same field of work. We both had passion for music, liked probing the philosophical and theological facets of life, love for natural beauty, and good conversation. More than friends Unfortunately this ‘perfect’ friendship suddenly changed. He obviously wanted us to be more than friends, and I was naïve to think we were on the same script. He started distancing himself from me and disappeared all together. What a waste to a great friendship! Why do men always have to complicate things with feel...

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