beauty vs personality
By Christine Chacha
Last week, I was reading my favourite columnist and was I appalled by his stance on certain issues. He claimed among other things that beautiful women are vain with lack of personality and above all, not marriage materials. His reason being, since they have the looks, then they do not try hard to impress, which I don’t have any problem with it.
So, in this article, I hope to enlighten him on issues regarding beauty and personality, as it appears to me that, beautiful women are only cultural victims.From the moment the so-called pretty girls are born, they are adored and paraded as a show off by their parents. These are the girls branded princess by their fathers and often show them off to their friends.They are adored and everyone showers them with praises of how cute they are.
All that people see in them are their looks. The girls are made to believe that their looks are important than anything. I don’t blame such a girl for being vain when she grows up. After all, it is the way she was groomed.
In fact, one day, a colleague made my day when she said she will never let her daughter know that she is pretty and will not allow others to do the same because, apparently, when a girl knows she has the looks, pride slowly encroaches her innocent soul.
While men bash these pretty girls calling them opportunists, the rest of the average female fraternity hate them because they seem to have an easy life. And “why should they struggle?” I asked. It doesn’t take rocket science to know that beautiful girls get away with practically anything because society allows them.
People including you, will do anything for a pretty child, if you doubt me, do a research of your own. From the moment they are toddlers, special treatment is their birth right; in public places everyone wants to help you carry your beautiful baby, at school they are often the teacher’s pet, even the other children want to befriend them and boys want to carry their bags, make way for her and practically do anything for her.
It is at that point that pretty girls learn that they can get anything because of their looks. In fact, for them opportunities come on a silver platter, all they have to do is, flash a smile and look gorgeous. Why struggle?Men do not make the situation any easier for them, and today they want to shanghai them into thinking they are not marriage material.
I believe beautiful girls are just victims of men’s inability to handle the insecurity that comes with dating a beautiful woman.Watch a man who he is dating a beautiful woman, he will act like a fool, do his best to make it work and lay down his life for her, but in the long run will get dumped.To justify his being dumped, he will say the girl lacked personality.
I beg to differ, most men who date beautiful women are just looking for an ego boost, mostly have a low self esteem and just want a trophy. Men should stop lying and be real men, why do they cower from marrying them. Women too want challenges, too available, acting stupid for her and being too easy is boring. That is why, they fall for jerks who do not want them, the thrill of having him after you is like opium.
Sure, I agree that beautiful girls do lack something but who doesn’t? Who has it all? For most people, life is unfair, but we all agree that God is fair. He is the great maker and giver of gifts. He will give you a spade and give another a rake. I bet it is a way of fostering interpersonal relations, making sure you do not exist in isolation.
Well, same case here, she will be pretty and lack personality but the average Jane who men find alluring has the personality and lacks the looks. My brother always says a man who says looks do not matter is lying. According to him ‘reception’ ni muhimu and a pretty woman is what every man desires.
Sure, beauty fades but by the time it does, I bet she will not be alone despite her supposedly lack of personality.
chaxtine@yahoo.com
Last week, I was reading my favourite columnist and was I appalled by his stance on certain issues. He claimed among other things that beautiful women are vain with lack of personality and above all, not marriage materials. His reason being, since they have the looks, then they do not try hard to impress, which I don’t have any problem with it.
So, in this article, I hope to enlighten him on issues regarding beauty and personality, as it appears to me that, beautiful women are only cultural victims.From the moment the so-called pretty girls are born, they are adored and paraded as a show off by their parents. These are the girls branded princess by their fathers and often show them off to their friends.They are adored and everyone showers them with praises of how cute they are.
All that people see in them are their looks. The girls are made to believe that their looks are important than anything. I don’t blame such a girl for being vain when she grows up. After all, it is the way she was groomed.
In fact, one day, a colleague made my day when she said she will never let her daughter know that she is pretty and will not allow others to do the same because, apparently, when a girl knows she has the looks, pride slowly encroaches her innocent soul.
While men bash these pretty girls calling them opportunists, the rest of the average female fraternity hate them because they seem to have an easy life. And “why should they struggle?” I asked. It doesn’t take rocket science to know that beautiful girls get away with practically anything because society allows them.
People including you, will do anything for a pretty child, if you doubt me, do a research of your own. From the moment they are toddlers, special treatment is their birth right; in public places everyone wants to help you carry your beautiful baby, at school they are often the teacher’s pet, even the other children want to befriend them and boys want to carry their bags, make way for her and practically do anything for her.
It is at that point that pretty girls learn that they can get anything because of their looks. In fact, for them opportunities come on a silver platter, all they have to do is, flash a smile and look gorgeous. Why struggle?Men do not make the situation any easier for them, and today they want to shanghai them into thinking they are not marriage material.
I believe beautiful girls are just victims of men’s inability to handle the insecurity that comes with dating a beautiful woman.Watch a man who he is dating a beautiful woman, he will act like a fool, do his best to make it work and lay down his life for her, but in the long run will get dumped.To justify his being dumped, he will say the girl lacked personality.
I beg to differ, most men who date beautiful women are just looking for an ego boost, mostly have a low self esteem and just want a trophy. Men should stop lying and be real men, why do they cower from marrying them. Women too want challenges, too available, acting stupid for her and being too easy is boring. That is why, they fall for jerks who do not want them, the thrill of having him after you is like opium.
Sure, I agree that beautiful girls do lack something but who doesn’t? Who has it all? For most people, life is unfair, but we all agree that God is fair. He is the great maker and giver of gifts. He will give you a spade and give another a rake. I bet it is a way of fostering interpersonal relations, making sure you do not exist in isolation.
Well, same case here, she will be pretty and lack personality but the average Jane who men find alluring has the personality and lacks the looks. My brother always says a man who says looks do not matter is lying. According to him ‘reception’ ni muhimu and a pretty woman is what every man desires.
Sure, beauty fades but by the time it does, I bet she will not be alone despite her supposedly lack of personality.
chaxtine@yahoo.com
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