matchmaking days

By Christine chacha

Yesterday while listening to my favorite show on Choice FM radio I learned a thing or two about relationships that  I would like to explore for your own mis-education (lol). This year we all made resolutions and as I found out from my friends, as usual all our resolutions centered on men and making better choices in the dating world and better ways to deal with men. It is very sad actually that every year we talk about men and brainstorm on how we are going to do things differently the coming year only to end up making the same mistakes.

Back to the radio show apparently there is this woman who is the worlds most expensive matchmaker.  Her rates are quite high so she only works with high profile people .Her programme includes everything from counseling to redecoration (yeah you need a makeover to attract). Yeah I know you are probably thinking yeah right but imagine if someone could make a fortune out of helping  guys meet the women of their dreams don’t  you think this reflects something here .And mind you this did not start today.

Whatever happened to the human race? The thrill of hooking up with someone at the supermarket or at the beach is now history and a tale we might only hear about. The excitement of chasing after your soul mate is now a preserve of romantic novels and classic movies. And as we all know such thing are just meant to make us think awww love is so sweet but then reality check says such things only happen in the movies.
Time has changed and so have things people are cutting the chance as things are strictly business. Flip through magazines, newspapers, internet and even phones there are adverts on how you can meet a single around you. Infact my male pals were telling me that maybe dating should be turned into something like a job interview where you bring you CV and compare notes if it doesn’t work you say adios and move on to the next person something more like the reality TV show the Bachelor or the Bachelorette?

Watching the series “How I met your mother” made me think ahead and wonder how I will tell my kids about how I met their father because at this rate I might end up putting up an advert to meet an eligible bachelor.Because he has been pre screened, tested and approved I might end up with him. I will have to explain to my children how I met their father. Looking at each one of them , I will say he replied to my advert in the paper and turns out he was the most compatible guy for me . No tale about how we accidentally bumped into each other at the mall and some Victorian novel scenario.

Doesnt sound too good but with all the hustles of today’s life,  who wants to spend their time and maybe years chasing after someone that you might not be compatible with? Coupled with the fact that it will cost money time and energy.  When you could have been doing something meaningful like earning some ‘reds-read money- as a dating agency somewhere does the work for you? All you have to do is approve or disapprove their choices.

Remember the movie He is just not into you? There  was a phrase about exceptions and rules. Some people are just an exception they will accidentally bump into the man of their dreams or will fall in love by just looking at each other. But the rest of us are the rule,such things might never happen to us. It will happens to a chosen few the rest of us need a helping hand when it comes to finding a mate and in this time and era, a dating agency is the best business.
From the days of our forefathers dating services were available in the form of relatives and friends who introduced guys to us.I know that the success rate of arranged marriages back them was pretty high must have meant something. Not that I would advocate for it but what I mean is a helping hand in finding the one is not such a bad idea after all. As annoying as being introduced to single people because you are one might sound, Let your friends and family who are in relationships pawn you to their single friends, who knows he might be the one and you just needed a little shove to actually see it..

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