Spying in relationships
By Christine Chacha
I bet you already know about the alleged Russian spy ring in the US. Maybe, it’s old inforn now, but it got me thinking about a different kind of spying; spying in relationships. Facebook accounts are being checked, names and passwords are being stolen and texts messages are being intercepted by partners.
But the question is: Is spying on our significant ever OK?
I know you will probably cringe at what I am about to say, but I have infor to support the fact that spying on your partner is actually harmless. Morally, it is wrong, but there are some special cases in relationships that call for a bit of Sherlock Holmes.Every woman does it at one point of her life so dont point fingers at me, you have probably done it already or you will; It’s an inherent trait. Call it immature and lack of trust, but doing it on your partner, especially in the early stages of a relationship, can give you a clear direction on where it’s heading. Besides at this time, you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.
Last year, I started dating this man. He was everything I was looking for in a man, understanding, caring and respectful. However, there was one thing about him that I never liked; his mysterious behaviousr.I always felt like ther was something about him that i dint know, he was too good to be true and it drove me crazy. I could not comprehend anything about him. He rarely shared his feelings or thoughts. He just had this aura of mystery that would drive any woman up the wall.
So, I did what any woman would naturally have done. I creatively got his password and was all over his emails, Facebook account, cell phone and personal stuff. Although I regret doing it, I’m glad I did it anyway, because what I stumbled upon saved me from a potential heartbreak. Not only was he in a relationship, he was actually a father. Just to think of what I would have gotten myself into, makes me shiver.
To read the personal stuff of your significant other can make you see them in a new light. You may find skeletons that were never meant to be revealed, something that could make dating them impossible My pal argues that spying when you are in a serious relationship is actually immature and means that you have trust issues and if you are looking for something, you will definitely find it. And i agree with that.
It’s known fact that the happiest and most successful relationships are based entirely on trust.As they say, what you don’t know cannot harm you, before you start snooping around, ask yourself if you are prepared for what you might find.
I bet you already know about the alleged Russian spy ring in the US. Maybe, it’s old inforn now, but it got me thinking about a different kind of spying; spying in relationships. Facebook accounts are being checked, names and passwords are being stolen and texts messages are being intercepted by partners.
But the question is: Is spying on our significant ever OK?
I know you will probably cringe at what I am about to say, but I have infor to support the fact that spying on your partner is actually harmless. Morally, it is wrong, but there are some special cases in relationships that call for a bit of Sherlock Holmes.Every woman does it at one point of her life so dont point fingers at me, you have probably done it already or you will; It’s an inherent trait. Call it immature and lack of trust, but doing it on your partner, especially in the early stages of a relationship, can give you a clear direction on where it’s heading. Besides at this time, you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.
Last year, I started dating this man. He was everything I was looking for in a man, understanding, caring and respectful. However, there was one thing about him that I never liked; his mysterious behaviousr.I always felt like ther was something about him that i dint know, he was too good to be true and it drove me crazy. I could not comprehend anything about him. He rarely shared his feelings or thoughts. He just had this aura of mystery that would drive any woman up the wall.
So, I did what any woman would naturally have done. I creatively got his password and was all over his emails, Facebook account, cell phone and personal stuff. Although I regret doing it, I’m glad I did it anyway, because what I stumbled upon saved me from a potential heartbreak. Not only was he in a relationship, he was actually a father. Just to think of what I would have gotten myself into, makes me shiver.
To read the personal stuff of your significant other can make you see them in a new light. You may find skeletons that were never meant to be revealed, something that could make dating them impossible My pal argues that spying when you are in a serious relationship is actually immature and means that you have trust issues and if you are looking for something, you will definitely find it. And i agree with that.
It’s known fact that the happiest and most successful relationships are based entirely on trust.As they say, what you don’t know cannot harm you, before you start snooping around, ask yourself if you are prepared for what you might find.
On the other hand, if there is anything that I can swear by, it’s a woman sixth sense. Every woman has this gut feeling when things are not going on well in a relationship and this for me is a special case for spying. Probably, for some time, you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of his behaviour.
Perhaps, you confronted your partner and was met with denial, you try to believe them and convince yourself that it’s just paranoia but a part of you is screaming, hey, this doesn't fit! I don't believe it!To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil in you.So the best thing would be to set your soul to rest. Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and endorse your trust. Of course, doing it all the time can be disastrous, but if you have reason to worry, why not confirm it?
I discovered there is even a software designed to help you spy on your man.If you Google “Spy on love,” you will be met with a myriad of software designed to help in your quest. I wouldn’t call it spying really, it’s just keeping tabs on what’s going on. You want to be in the loop when things start going haywire.
Men are secretive beings. They were designed to keep things bottled up. Even when a relationship is not working or heading anywhere, they would rather tag you along for ages till something better comes up. It’s common to see women who stay in unproductive relationships waiting for a man to propose only to be shocked when he dumps them to marry someone else a month later.
Would it not have been better if such a woman did a little detective work on her own? It could have saved her time, her heart and possibly her pride. See.. it does make sense!!
Perhaps, you confronted your partner and was met with denial, you try to believe them and convince yourself that it’s just paranoia but a part of you is screaming, hey, this doesn't fit! I don't believe it!To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil in you.So the best thing would be to set your soul to rest. Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and endorse your trust. Of course, doing it all the time can be disastrous, but if you have reason to worry, why not confirm it?
I discovered there is even a software designed to help you spy on your man.If you Google “Spy on love,” you will be met with a myriad of software designed to help in your quest. I wouldn’t call it spying really, it’s just keeping tabs on what’s going on. You want to be in the loop when things start going haywire.
Men are secretive beings. They were designed to keep things bottled up. Even when a relationship is not working or heading anywhere, they would rather tag you along for ages till something better comes up. It’s common to see women who stay in unproductive relationships waiting for a man to propose only to be shocked when he dumps them to marry someone else a month later.
Would it not have been better if such a woman did a little detective work on her own? It could have saved her time, her heart and possibly her pride. See.. it does make sense!!
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